Many people did not receive sufficient support and love during childhood, but instead experienced varying degrees of insecurity, disparagement, neglect, violence of all kinds, etc. How does this affect children? They develop survival mechanisms and have to distance themselves from their core. Boundaries and often any sense of orientation become uncertain. There is little or no room for their own needs.
They lose their sense of self and internalize messages from the outside world. Often, they are unaware for a long time that this is not normal or right. Statements such as "You are bad," "You are stupid," "You will never amount to anything," "You can't do anything," "You only think of yourself," "You are too quiet," "You are too loud," 'You are .......................' Attributions then lead to personal beliefs: 'I am bad.' 'I am unimportant.' 'I am not lovable.' 'I should be different.' 'I will never be good enough.' 'I ........
Difficult experiences can also have this effect. For example, events for which we were supposedly to blame, disturbing atmospheres in the family, and much more. They can lead to beliefs such as: "I am to blame." "I am not good enough." "I should not show myself as I am." "I should never say what I think." And much more.
Such beliefs can prevent us from living up to our potential. Much of this is outdated, yet it continues to be effective. We may know that we are not so bad, ugly, stupid, lazy, selfish, guilty, etc., but this knowledge does not reach us effectively. We continue to behave as if we deserve nothing better.
This week, we will work specifically through painting (Solution-Oriented Painting Therapy LOM®) to address obstructive thought patterns in such a way that our own needs are met. Old beliefs are acknowledged as survival strategies. Feelings find space. The processes are accompanied individually. The more extensive the injuries, the more time the processes need. Often, we can only go a short way this week, or set an important impulse. The goal is always for the painters to come closer to each other and stop being against themselves—often an automated protection strategy. Spend a week painting and vacationing on the beautiful south coast of Crete. Please be stable enough to embark on this painting journey.