War children and war grandchildren - trauma therapy on Lanzarote

How we can free ourselves from our parents' legacy of trauma...

Intergenerational transmission of trauma

How can I, on behalf of my 'silent' parents, resolve their traumas and reconcile myself with the suffering they have experienced?

15 workshop hours

As far as accommodation is concerned, I usually make sure that my clients find their own accommodation in the local area. This is simply because everyone has different requirements. Some want their own apartment, while others may just want a simple room. Both are available in the immediate vicinity. I live and work on a finca in La Vegueta, a small Canarian village in the center of the island. Just have a look at Airbnb or Booking. They will show you all the available options for your dates and you can also look at photos. I will also be happy to help you with a few tips.

Meals are not included, as there are also very different needs here. You decide for yourself what is good and right for you. As a rule, you can cater for yourself in your accommodation - either you have your own kitchen or at least cooking facilities. There is a small supermarket in the village where you can buy the essentials, while a larger supermarket is in the next town. On Sundays there is a small farmers' market where local farmers sell their produce. There are also several bars and restaurants in the surrounding area.

Every retreat is individual, which is why the program is tailored to you. The retreat comprises 15 hours per week, divided into 5 x 3 hours, the exact times will be determined together. The content is tailored to your wishes and needs, i.e. you bring the topics you would like to work on.

Example program:

Day 1
Situation analysis - how did I experience my childhood, what still shapes my relationship with my parents today?

Day 2
Research and reflection on my parents' generation:
What do I know about my parents' wartime childhood experiences?
What do I know about my grandparents?
How did my parents experience the war / possible loss or imprisonment of their parents / flight / violence?
Are my parents open about their experiences or are they more typical representatives of the silent generation?
Are my parents traumatized by their experiences?

Day 3
War children and war grandchildren:
To what extent have my parents passed on their traumatic experiences to me?
Do I recognize feelings of sudden discomfort or fear that cannot be explained by my own experiences?
Are there any clues in my parents' history that can provide an explanation for my feelings?
To what extent is my relationship with my parents overshadowed by their traumatic experiences?

Day 4
Farewell and new beginnings - working on the resolution
How can I, on behalf of my 'silent' parents, resolve their trauma and reconcile myself with the suffering they experienced?

Day 5
Rites of passage - ritual reconciliation/reconciliation

Arrive on your own. If you would like to explore the island or go to the beach outside of the retreat program, we recommend booking a rental car. There are bus connections, but the buses do not run very often and the connection from village to village often involves changing buses. A car gives you more flexibility and you can make much better use of your free time. If you book a car in advance, it will be waiting for you at the airport and you can drive straight to your accommodation.